Firefighter Spouse

As a spouse of a firefighter no one really thinks of what goes through the mind of someone as they say goodbye to their loved one in the morning hoping they will be home safe at the end of their shift. We all know the nature of their job is dangerous, however we don’t always consider the emotional toll on our loved one.

By the time we attended the Two The Rescue program Steve and I had been together for 15 years and I cannot tell you how I wished this was available to me many years before, we always discussed his day and I thought I understood. This program gives the insight of what he might be experiencing when he tells me his day was “ok” or not want to talk about it, the kinds of things he may be thinking or not thinking due to several variables in his day and things I can do or say, to help not hinder the situation. On the other side of this it made Steve realize how the family might be feeling when these things happen. Armed with this information it opened up different avenues of communication, understanding of behaviors and more importantly teaching me that things are not always what they seem. It is hard to sum up how much I learned in this seminar as there are no words except that every firefighter and first responder should take it. It gave me clarity that I didn’t know I needed.

I recommended a young lady that is dating a firefighter take the seminar and she came out of it saying that this class should be required as well. It’s only been a week and she has been using things she has learned and has said it makes a huge difference.